“When you’re left hanging because the person you’re dating or seeing suddenly cuts off all communication without warning or explanation”
– Maya Borgueta, 2015
Pretty sure we’ve all been through this at least once, and it’s not the best experience ever. It’s one thing to be dumped; it’s another to be left hanging, not knowing whether you’re still together.
Or were you even together?
Not texting back is still fine, but being ghosted at the airport like this Dutch guy takes things to a whole new level. Alexander Pieter Cirk flew 7,505km from Holland to China just to meet his online girlfriend, only for her to not show up at all. For 10 days, he waited for her at the airport before he collapsed from fatigue. Brutal.
Can there be anything more embarrassing than that? Well, we scoured the internet for the most painful ghosting stories.
#1 “I waited for three hours…”
“I started talking to this German expat after we matched on Tinder. After a few days of texting on the app, he asked if we could meet up. Since it wasn’t a busy week and I was looking for people to hang out with, I agreed to have a drink or two with him.
I wasn’t that into him. I mean, I was interested but not head over heels, but still keen to meet him. I wore one of my best dresses that night and waited at the meeting place for three hours.
He never showed up. He didn’t text me to reschedule as well. Like I said, I wasn’t really into him but it still hurts. I felt a bit embarrassed as I kept telling the waiter to leave the menu because I’m expecting a friend. Then I left the restaurant alone.”
#2 LDR? Guess not.
It seems like the writer’s girlfriend didn’t have the heart to tell him that she wasn’t interested in a long distance relationship… until he got stationed elsewhere.
#3 Father of the baby going AWOL
#4 When he didn’t show up for your 21st birthday party
Rumour has it that Jake Gyllenhaal ghosted Taylor Swift, leaving her to celebrate her 21st birthday party without him. Tay Tay was so distraught about his absence she allegedly hid in the restroom to cry.
#5 That guy who faked his mum’s death just to stop talking to you
SassMaster had dated the guy for a few months when he suddenly decided not to turn up at all for their lunch date. Texts were ignored, she was unfriended on Facebook, and he just disappeared… until four months later. He apologised for the dick move but blamed it on his mother’s untimely death.
Except that his mother is still alive.
#6 Ghosted after 16 years of marriage
We can’t think of anything worse than this. Nothing beats being ghosted by your husband of 16 years.
After dropping her husband off at his friend’s place, amylee never heard from him again. After a week, she managed to get him to pick up his phone by pretending to be someone else. Till today, he never told her why he left her.
#7 BFF no more
Perhaps the most painful ghosting isn’t by a romantic interest or a spouse, but by a best friend whom you thought would be there for you… forever.
#8 It’s not you, it’s how you look.
If that doesn’t hurt you, we don’t know what can.
#9 Before he proposed
He was about to propose to her when suddenly…
…he just disappeared from her life. Last she checked, he already bought the ring. He blocked her on all communication platforms. She still doesn’t know what happened and why he changed his mind.
#10 Before the wedding
So Sean Penn and Charlize Theron were engaged and would have been married by now if she hadn’t ghosted Sean.
She stopped replying his texts, stopped answering his phone calls, and even stopped replying his emails. Damn guurrrl. That’s harsh.
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Words by Esther Chung
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