We’ve all been there when we’ve had a really long day or an even longer week and when it comes to getting your mojo on, well, it’s easier said than done.

You probably tried to make some effort like lighting some candles or maybe slipping into something sexy but let’s face it – if you’re tired or have a lot on your mind, it sometimes feels almost impossible to get in the mood.

But all is not lost! It’s about taking a few deliberate steps to reconnect with your sensuality.

#1 Heighten your senses


Focus. Women who regularly focus on what they see, smell, feel, and hear can have higher levels of arousal and sexual satisfaction. To get in the habit of learning to heighten your senses, choose a snack to eat thoughtfully. Take special note of the food’s texture, taste, and aroma, as well as any emotions it may evoke. By practicing to be more present, it’ll help you tap into the sights, sounds, smells, and sensations that get you hot and bothered. If your partner feels you’re in the “zone”, then your partner will most likely join in the fun! And if you’re in that “bonus zone” bring out the toys and gels –  it’s party time! These will definitely elevate your senses and experience to a whole new level. If you’re feeling adventurous, try Play O to achieve more intense orgasms.

#2 Conversation is key


A lot of the time our conversations with our loved ones can be rather mundane. Talking about getting the plumbing fixed or whether this bill has been paid or whether you’re picking up the kids tomorrow can be downright unsexy. However, conversation is key to getting things going in the love department.

The slightest allusion to racy happenings can put you in a more passionate state of mind. So, to help move things along, why not shoot him a text during the middle of the day that hints at a sexy moment that you shared with each other. Naughty begets naughty!

#3 Don’t be pressured to wear sexy lingerie


If it makes you feel good, by all means, go ahead. But don’t do it because you feel pressured to do so. For some women, a lacy get-up can be a real pain — definitely not helpful in getting your sexy on! It’s important to wear what makes you comfortable yet feel sensual, not necessarily what your partner may think is hot. Try a satin kimono, loosely tied, or even one of his shirts, with pretty much nothing else underneath!

#4 Raise that pulse


Having good body confidence can also boost your sex drive. Whether it’s yoga or running, doing any exercise can boost your body confidence and thus, your sex drive. A recent study in the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality found that the more often we work out, the more desirable we feel. It seems that women who exercise have higher sexual self-esteem, which means they may have a greater desire to have sex, according to lead researcher Tina M. Penhollow, PhD.

#5 Hug


One cannot go wrong with a good hug. Hugs are important in establishing bonding with the people you love. While the average hug lasts for 3 seconds, a study showed that hugging for 20 seconds and more increases your levels of the bonding hormone – oxytocin. Touch triggers feelings of deep attachment, which often leads to sexual desire in women. So linger a little longer in that kiss, or touch his arm while you recap your day. Every bit of contact helps.

Sources: Heath & Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality

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